EXACTLY

Whenever Andrea posts a picture of Jayden or Hannah on Facebook, it is almost a given that someone will comment that the baby looks EXACTLY like Andrea. Or if Andrea's mom is tagged, his mom's friends will say how the baby looks EXACTLY like Andrea's mom.

Some will even argue after Andrea's humble replies like 'nola, got look like Cindy also.' They are so sure about what they see that they are willing to ARGUE over this.

Which is fine. IF THE BABY CAME OUT OF THEIR VAGINAS.

Maybe I am being stupid. Who care what people say, right? But I'm irked. Boy am I irked.

When Jayden was born, a lot of people commented on how much he looked like his dad. I felt a bit miffed, but let it slide coz it's kinda cute to have your son look like your husband right?

Then Hannah came along, and the same comments ensued - accordingly to 99% of the people who have seen her, she looks EXACTLY like her brother or her father. That does not sound like much of a compliment to a baby GIRL. Plus, she's MY girl. She supposed to look like ME.

And then I feel bad. Why do I feel so affected by this? Is it because I am afraid I might love them less if they do not look like me? No way am I gonna let other people change the way I love my children.

There has always been a part of me who cares a lot about what others think. But now that I am a mother, I realize that it is high time to toughen up and shut the naysayers. Not just for myself, but for my kids also. If words can hurt me so easily, how am I ever gonna be strong enough for the li'l chubbies?